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Carolers Wrap the Season

A Lifetime of Christmas Poetry

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet and teacher, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry.

Mom had a tradition of writing a new Christmas poem each year and sending it to friends and relatives. The mailing list grew each year, and people always told us they looked forward to mom’s Christmas poems. She published some in a couple little books. There are too many to post just once a day during the month of December, but I’ll choose some of the best.

Carolers Wrap the Season
by Raynette Eitel

In cold snow-dreams tied with fa-la-la ribbons,
And in nostalgia, prickly with holly,
Damp with tears, sharp with memories of
Melodies thick with the cinnamon scent of Christmas,
A holy hush hovers between the songs.

It is an empty space filled with Bethlehem
As a silver star slips along the sky
Showing the way surely, silently
To all who would search.

Once again, the music pulses its proclamation
“Gloria in Excelsis Deo!”
Pouring arpeggios like candies bursting from a piñata
Leaving the listeners on their knees
Scrambling for a morsel,
And breathless with ecstasy.

The carolers turn to leave
Calling out “Merry Christmas!”
And though they are gone, their music remains.
It is a package, pulsing like a candle in the darkness.
Those listening are not sure for a moment
Whether Bethlehem is near or far.

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Calypso Christmas

A Lifetime of Christmas Poetry

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet and teacher, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry.

Mom had a tradition of writing a new Christmas poem each year and sending it to friends and relatives. The mailing list grew each year, and people always told us they looked forward to mom’s Christmas poems. She published some in a couple little books. There are too many to post just once a day during the month of December, but I’ll choose some of the best.

Calypso Christmas
by Raynette Eitel, 1989

Some places Christmas comes in like a calypso,
Steel bands playing a Merry Christmas across white sands,
Bongos beating a message for dancing,
Always the dancing barefoot, frenzied,
Skin glistening beneath a hot sun.

Some places Christmas trims trees in fruit,
Juicy balls of orange and tangerine,
Bunches of bananas bending low
Coconuts hanging way above reach,
Swaying as the calypso on the beach plays on.

Some places Christmas comes in with perfumed air
From swags of bougainvillea as
The Christmas calypso drifts into open windows.
People lean far out to catch the rhythm,
Laughing a joyful laugh, tapping a happy beat,
Sending little showers of petals fluttering
Like red butterflies in the breeze.

Before morning, a warm blue sea erases footprints
From the silent sand; and yet
A steel band sound lingers on the surf,
And that Christmas calypso beat lasts all year long.

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As a Little Child

A Lifetime of Christmas Poetry

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet and teacher, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry.

Mom had a tradition of writing a new Christmas poem each year and sending it to friends and relatives. The mailing list grew each year, and people always told us they looked forward to mom’s Christmas poems. She published some in a couple little books. There are too many to post just once a day during the month of December, but I’ll choose some of the best.

As a Little Child
by Raynette Eitel

A little child with Christmas eyes,
Peppermint lips, and sticky hands
Stood paper-doll still,
Everything within her body straining
To hear the sounds of hoofbeats on the roof
And a mighty “Ho-Ho-Ho” echoing across the night.

Only the ancient certainty of childhood
Could account for those dancing feet stilled
Or expectant eyes looking everywhere
For signs of his coming.

I, long-since deafened and blinded by years,
Watch warily as Wonder and Awe and Love
Are born again in this child.

My breathing stops,
My own ears strain to catch a sound.
And oh, the wonder of knowing once again
The deafening whisper of angel wings and
The healing glimpse of one bright star.

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Bonfire on the Beach

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry. To honor her, I’m sharing some of her poems. To read more of her poems, keep coming back here.

She grew up in the desert Southwest, but she fell in love with the sea once she was able to travel more, briefly living next to the ocean with our stepdad, Jim, and returning to the seashore every chance she got. We will be traveling to the coast to celebrate her life later this summer.

Bonfire on the Beach

by Raynette Eitel

The sun sinks into the Pacific,
A red ball, rolling quickly across the sky
And plunging into the crimson sea,

Darkness begins to cover the beach,
Save for small bonfires blazing along the sand.
Families gather for this time of laughter and light.

Small children with marshmallows on a stick
Complete the ritual of happiness. Songs float
Across the smoky night and all is well.

In future years, when they smell wood burning,
They will recall happy campfires, the taste of
Scorched marshmallows and sweetness before sleep.

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Pieces of Peace

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry. To honor her, I’m sharing some of her poems. To read more of her poems, keep coming back here.

Mom grew up in the desert, and she had plenty of southwestern poetry that we enjoyed (which I will share!). However, another love of hers, which grew as she and her husband Jim spent time in tropical climates, was the sea. Far from tropical, though, was the beautiful area off the coast of Washington, a collection of islands called the San Juans. They tried to stay for a month each summer, to get away from the Las Vegas heat. She fell in love with the area.

Pieces of Peace
(on Orcas Island, Washington)
by Raynette Eitel

Here is tranquility in quiet seas
Surrounded by sentinels of silent pines.
Here a plane lands on still waters
Beside sailboats like a boy’s favorite toy.

And from the summit of Mt. Constitution
Comes a dazzling glimpse of a snow-cloaked Mt. Baker
And green islands circling Orcas like a necklace
As eagles soar beneath a smooth sky and indigo straits.

In July, night comes slowly as light lingers long and low
Over waters littered with glitter of newborn stars.
A soothing song settles over the land like a lullaby
While we settle into the peace, wrapping it about us.

Dawn will not be long in coming,
But it will tiptoe across the island’s eastern edge
Swathed in a soft pink robe
Trimmed with fog as white as ermine.

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Patriotism Reborn

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry. To honor her, I’m sharing some of her poems. To read more of her poems, keep coming back here.

Our mom, like so many, was horrified by the events of 9/11/2001. Some of the patriotic poems she penned afterwards were published in an anthology of poetry titled 911: The Day America Cried.

Patriotism Reborn
by Raynette Eitel, written 2001

I never knew years of singing
About the sweet land of liberty
Was wedging love so securely
In my heart
That it might break.

I never dreamed humming
“God Bless America”
Would become a daily prayer
To deliver my country
From evil.

I never suspected that
All those times I bellowed
“The Star Spangled Banner”
Just before the first pitch
Would one day be so
Filled with anger.

I have lived from sea to shining sea
Beside that purple mountain
Just above the fruited plain
In a country where I
Took freedom for granted,
Worshipped God as I chose,
Said whatever I pleased,
Bore arms when I wished,
Never truly grasping
My extraordinary birthright.

It is a time for remembering
What America is all about,
Songs still sung,
Hands held over broken hearts,
Flags waving proudly
From the New York harbor
To the redwood forest,
Tears streaming down our cheeks,
Thoughts of Bunker Hill,
Gettysburg, Verdun, Pearl Harbor,
The 38th Parallel, Viet Nam,
Twin towers.

Now that I am reborn with tears
And smoke and fire
Into patriotism,
Drinking the milk of freedom,
Wrapped in the red white and blue
Of my old flag,
I sing new lullabies
Of the songs of my fathers
And vow to protect and defend
America the rest of my life.

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Queen Mountain (Pikes Peak)

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry. To honor her, I’m sharing some of her poems. To read more of her poems, keep coming back here.

We grew up in Colorado Springs, at the foot of Pikes Peak. That lovely mountain dominates the city with its beautiful blue skirt, pink top, and snowy-white hair. A scar near the base, from an old gravel pit, hardly detracts from its beauty (but even as a little girl, I hated that someone had defaced it even a little). Every winter a team of climbers summit the mountain and, when we ring in the New Year down below, they set off fireworks from the Peak that, on a clear night, can be seen all the way to Kansas. The white blanket of snow reflects the glorious lights from the fireworks. You really should make a point of seeing it once.

I learned to ski on that mountain. Every day as I grew up, I ran to look out at the Peak from the window of our home and never ceased to marvel at it.

Queen Mountain (published in Colorado Springs Free Press, 1961)
by Raynette Eitel

She stands silently,
Smiling down upon us.
Sun and snow she tosses
Down and down forever,
Her gift of love—as though
She doesn’t hear our grumbles,
Grinding our teeth at nature.
Griping that it’s blowing,
Growling at the snowflakes.

She slumps shamefully,
Half her sparkling crown
She loses to machinery—
Scrape, scrape, screeching
Up her very self, it tears
And scratches a pathway
So nosy, noisy beings
Can strain and swear and
DAMN their heating autos, and
      DON their winter jackets, and
      DELVE into a snowbank.

She scoffs searingly.
At those who reach her summit,
Squinting down upon us—
The valley-her domain.
She cloaks her highway richly,
Wrapping ermine clouds securely,
Chuckling as cars chug downward—
The drivers, flatland farmers,
Fearful lest they fall.

She sighs sleepily—
Her crown a fire of fury
As King Midas comes to call.
And now no more invasions
Save us who love her beauty
Born of golden glory,
Mingled with dark pine trees,
Reaching for the sky.

She sleeps softly.
Covered, oh, so gently
With Heaven’s great white blanket
Unspoiled by any touch.
And to one more invasion,
She shows but cold indifference.
Bold men in annual pilgrimage
Can’t intrude upon her rest.

She stirs slightly—
Her crown in all its glory
With blazing jewels exploding,
Their colors flashing skyward,
And we stand staring upward,
Our hearts bowed down and prayerful
Praise Hosanna for this mountain!

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From Birds

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, age 85, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry.

To honor her, I’m sharing some of her poems.

To read more of her poems, keep coming back here.

From Birds
by Raynette Eitel

Each morning birds awakened her
With poems.


Through her dreams she heard
Soft cooing of doves,
Thrum of hummingbird wings,
And robins singing of spring.

Once a hawk swooped down,
His mighty beak
Too near her eyes,
His shriek terrible to bear.
She bolted upright in bed,
Heart pounding.

Sparrows twittered poems
In syncopation
With rhythmic sounds
Of mockingbirds,
Giving her snatches of verse
Stolen from another place.

But when she heard the meadowlark
Singing full voice,
Heralding dawn in full chorus,
She knew it was time to arise
And write it all down.

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I Have Grown Old

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry.

To honor her, I’m sharing some of her poems.

To read more of her poems, keep coming back here.

I Have Grown Old
by Raynette Eitel, 1999

I have grown old, my love.
Words I stored like sliced apples
To dry on the roof
Are waiting to be
Folded into a sweet autumn pie
Or stirred into a smooth sauce
Sweetened with the savor of my life.

I have grown old, my love.
My arthritic fingers write slowly
Keeping up with wrinkled thoughts
From the cloth of a lifetime.


Stories I heard as a child,
Songs sung as I fought sleep,
Sayings that salted my grandmother’s speech,
Laughter, tears, and bitter anger
Simmered through the years into the syrup of my days.

My poems will be stirred until the
Essence is exactly right,
I will give you the first taste.

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Bury Me with Chocolates

My mom, Raynette Forister Eitel, passed away in September of 2022, drifting away into dementia. It was tragic to watch this woman who loved words, who was a poet, fade away into wordlessness after a lifetime of crafting poetry.

To honor her, I’d like to share some of her poems. She wrote for all of her adult life, sometimes published in local journals, occasionally gathering a few into small books she’d hand out to friends. Every year she wrote a Christmas poem, printed it in cards, and mailed it to friends and family in ever-growing lists. They would tell us that they looked forward to receiving her Christmas cards every year.

“Bury Me with Chocolates” is one of our family’s favorites. For this poem she won an award from a San Francisco dance troupe, and they choreographed a dance to accompany it. Receiving that award, and watching the dance from a specially reserved seat, was one of the highlights of her life.

Bury Me with Chocolates
Raynette Eitel

Bury me with chocolates,
The kind I love so well.
Send dark and bitter candy wreaths
With leaves of caramel.

Chocolate chip tears upon my cheeks,
White chocolate pillows filled with creams
To soothe me in my final sleep
And sweeten all my heavenly dreams.

Place one lone lovely chocolate rose
With petals curling in my hand.
Heap gold foil coins in random piles
Egyptian-like, and oh so grand.

Please do not toast me with champagne,
A rich hot chocolate will do,
Laced with a touch of cinnamon
And then perhaps marshmallows too.

But if you plan a conflagration
To send me warmly to my rest,
Do not forget I’ve always loved
A sticky, hot fudge sundae best.

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